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So You Don't Want To Go To Church Anymore

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Much of these ideas came from the book “So You Don’t Want To Go To Church Anymore”. You can download it and read it for free. Here:

So You Don’t Want To Go To Church Anymore

Here are some of the things I am chewing on this week:

Does Trusting God to do what I think is best really trusting Him?

Trusting God is to allow Him to do whatever He desires. If I focus that trust on a specific outcome am I just trying to manipulate Him.

Don’t just think of the ways I can fix something, in hindsight it is rarely my idea that He uses.

Day to Day, I can do whatever He puts before me. Savor it without striving and trying to make something happen. Enjoy the process. I can trust His plan. I’m not really in control anyway but I can trust Him.

God meets your needs day by day.

In the moment celebrate what is before you.

Don’t defend yourself.

singing is not Worship, attendance is not Fellowship and rule keeping is not Relationship

Jesus didn’t leave us with a system but a Spirit.

We don’t want ONE to become a less controlled replication of the same institution. Don’t try and get from each other what should come from God.

Lets not try and figure out the best formula to “do” church. Just do life, talk about what is happening and get to know Him more.

Our participation in the Body should be much more than just here.

We will do whatever He gives us to do whith whoever He gives us to do it with.

Equip people to know Him first.

Intentionally walk together as an expression of community, Listening to God together. Sharing lives and resources. Encouraging and Caring for each other and doing whatever else God might ask us to do.

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My mind keeps having to change and it is becoming more open. I really believe that as a follower of Jesus there should be a bunch of paradigm shifts (A set of assumptions, concepts, values, and practices that constitutes a way of viewing reality) I think I’ve spoken of this before but heck I’m 43 now and my memory isn’t the best so I’ll go over it again. Once again we should have serious mind changes. You see we don’t have it all figured out and if we are becoming better then we have to change our mind. I’m different than I was 5 years ago and I’m different than was 5 weeks ago. So here are some things I have heard in the last few weeks that changed my mind …

I’ve been chewing on this one for a while. Churches I have been a part of have often really been down on people with obvious sin in their lives. I don’t think God really quantifies sin like we do. We have real problems with specific “sins”. Sexual sins always cause the most anger. So if you have an obvious sin in your life we are likely to think less of you. So the less obvious sin in your life the more the church exalts you and you can serve and move into leadership. So does this mean you don’t have sin. No! You sin and if God doesn’t quantify sin then should we? No. So imagine that society has told you all your life that it is ok to live together before marriage. What am I going to say to you that will change your mind? Nothing. What might happen if I beat you over the head with my beliefs? I will be less likely to be able to introduce you to the real God. Not the one we have made up. So imagine you are Homosexual. Society has, once again, said for your whole life that Homosexuality is acceptable. What could I possible say that could make you no longer gay? Nothing. Could I beat you over the head with my beliefs and lose the opportunity to show you what Jesus was really like? Yes. Which is more important? Proving you wrong or representing God correctly. We should introduce people to God and then trust Him to change the things he wants changed. He is working on plenty of things in me and I don’t have time to fix you. I can’t anyway. This doesn’t mean I don’t care or that we shouldn’t try and assist each other but it does mean that you had better really love someone before you try and correct them.

Walking toward God is walking away from sin.

We Don’t want to try and teach people how to “Act” christian we want to introduce and foster a relationship with the real living God.

I’m not talking about moral relativism. Truth is truth, if it is true for me it is true for you but I am talking about allowing people to discover truth at a different pace and in different time frames.

You cannot squeeze a caterpillar into a butterfly mold and make it fly. That kind of transformation happens from the inside.

Supposing We Really Found Him – It is always shocking to meet life where we thought we were alone. ‘Look out!’ we cry, ‘it’s alive’. And therefore this is the very point at which so many draw back – I would have done so myself if I could – and proceed no further with Christianity. An ‘impersonal God’ – well and good. A subjective God of beauty, truth and goodness, inside our own heads – better still. A formless life-force surging through us, a vast power which we can tap – best of all. But God Himself, alive, pulling at the other end of the cord, perhaps approaching at an infinite speed, the hunter, king, husband – that is quite another matter. There comes a moment when the children who have been playing at burglars hush suddenly: was that a real footstep in the hall? There comes a moment when people who have been dabbling in religion (‘Man’s search for God!’) suddenly draw back. Supposing we really found Him? We never meant it to come to that! Worse still, supposing He had found us? – C.S. Lewis from Miracles
Supposing We Really Found Him – It is always shocking to meet life where we thought we were alone. ‘Look out!’ we cry, ‘it’s alive’. And therefore this is the very point at which so many draw back – I would have done so myself if I could – and proceed no further with Christianity. An ‘impersonal God’ – well and good. A subjective God of beauty, truth and goodness, inside our own heads – better still. A formless life-force surging through us, a vast power which we can tap – best of all. But God Himself, alive, pulling at the other end of the cord, perhaps approaching at an infinite speed, the hunter, king, husband – that is quite another matter. There comes a moment when the children who have been playing at burglars hush suddenly: was that a real footstep in the hall? There comes a moment when people who have been dabbling in religion (‘Man’s search for God!’) suddenly draw back. Supposing we really found Him? We never meant it to come to that! Worse still, supposing He had found us? – C.S. Lewis from Miracles
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Almost Everything Changes pt 3

Posted: March 6, 2009 in God, ONE
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Faith !?!?

Faith !?!?

It really is crazy how God works sometimes but I’m way ahead of myself. 😛   So I left off with a pretty size-able rant about the church but if you know me you know I can be pretty passionate about something I believe in and I sure believe christians misrepresent God. Before I go off again we should continue on with the story … (I had updated this already but I lost it. backup, backup, backup!) So heck, I don’t even really know where I am in the story but  know it keeps getting bigger. Paige and I really kinda headed out on our own. We have some friends that are coming along side of us but most day to day decisions are us and God. We still didn’t have a place to meet so Paige saw another building pretty close to us, it was huge. I, being the Giant-of-Faith that I am, discouraged her from calling, this place was huge and nothing we could ever afford. We were still praying that God would make a way for us to get into the other smaller place. So she ended up calling the Realtor and they said it was 2900 Square feet and that it was $100,000. Now this isn’t much in Los Angeles or even Boise, ID but it’s a chunk of change here and more than we’ve got or want to borrow. So we forgot about it. A few weeks later, Paige got a message from a guy asking her to call him back. Fortunately, we are able to pay our bills so we had no fear that it was a creditor, mad at us. So she called him. His name was Richard and he was the owner of the giant house and he was just checking in to see if we were interested in the house. Paige told him that we were, and why we wanted it, and that we couldn’t afford it. He asked what kind of money we were working with.  She told him, little to none. He thought it was strange to be looking for a place with no money. She told him again that we were looking for a place for our church

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/ ministry. He didn’t really say anything. So after a lull she went on. She said that she thought that God was going to put us in the place He wanted us in and that we were just trying to go where He wanted us. We know that this sounds crazy, we sound like lunatics, it is crazy, but it’s also true. Another lull as we imagine Richard getting ready to hang up the phone. He doesn’t. He just says that he thinks God may be behind the call. 🙂 See it is crazy!  Crazy but true. He says he wants to meet with us to show us the building.  CRAZY! So we set up a date a few days later. We can’t believe it.As the day gets closer both Paige and I begin to think something crazy is going to happen. We don’t know exactly what and we are afraid to get our hopes up too high, even though we trust God. Sometimes, most times, He has a different timetable that we do. Thankfully, He always has a better plan, and timing plays into that. We are afraid even though we trust because, unfortunately, we are human, which turns out to be the best option on earth (unless you are one of our Chihuahua’s). He knows we don’t have money but want to meet with us. Odd.

So the day arrives and we go to meet with Richard. We’ve prayed quite a bit about and for this moment. I’m afraid of what he is going to think of me. I’ve got a 5 inch chin,beardy thingy. I can imagine we aren’t what he expects. He’s cool right off the bat, he’s older, but he says he didn’t expect anything so he wasn’t disappointed. He warns us that the place isn’t perfect. We weren’t thinking it was. So he takes us on a tour. It is huge. I can’t even tell you how many rooms there are. They are everywhere. The floor is mostly hardwood and is beat up but mostly with a little cleaning and some varnish would be wonderful. I didn’t really have enough time to plot out how it could all work but I can see it. There is even an semi-finished upstairs. It’s all framed out to add more rooms but doesn’t have sheetrock yet. It is even set for plumbing. Cool. So we get done and he asks us what we think. We love it.

to be continued …

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This all took places over a series of months, I wish I had blogged / journaled it as it happened but I didn’t so I’m trying to remember it all as accurately as possible. So we were visiting other churches and began to really like the idea of the whole church, the big “C” Church, the Body of Christ. I’ve been part of churches in the past that were really internally focused. If you didn’t go go to that specific church it was unlikely that you were going to heaven. During this period I was reading a lot of books (Blue Like Jazz, Unchristian, etc.) and listening to sermons that were really driving the idea of one Church home. A friend and I began talking about doing our own Churchy-thing. We didn’t know what it would ultimately look like but we wanted to try something different. I was thinking about a para-church youth group thing and he was more interested in adults. He knew someone that he had met in California who was a Pastor in Charlotte that was interested in getting involved. Housing is fairly reasonable here in North Carolina and it had always been my idea to have church in a house. I was still thinking High Schoolers at this point. We got together with the Pastor from Charlotte and I kinda pitched the ideas that I had. He was leading his church’s College Age / Young Adult ministry and asked if we wanted to see their building. It was really cool because it was in a small house. It really was exactly what I was looking for. So then the vision, His vision, shifted. My friend could have church for adults and I could work with the Young Adults. I started looking for a house and we found the Old Rural Hall House, (click here for pics and info), We started praying because we don’t have what they wanted. (30K) Paige even called and asked if they would consider donating it. We were on our way to becoming a Non-profit organization so thought they may consider it. After a long time of waiting they finally said no. We were undeterred knowing that God is big and we really just want what He wants anyway. We drive by the Old Rural Hall place almost everytime we leave our house so we pray that God would work out the details on a place. Somewhere along the line my friend and I realized that our vision was too different and we decided that I would go on my own. BurnedByChurch.org was birthed during this period as we realized how much damage people who claimed to be christians do to people who aren’t christians or heck even to christians. I’ve done it myself. There are certain things that I believe you have to do / believe to be a christian, but this didn’t stop me from making another big list, just like the Pharisees back in Jesus’ time, that you had to do or not do to be a christian. If you’ve met christian you’ve probably met: Hypocritical, Holier-Than-Thou, Arrogant, Pushy, Closed-Minded, Self-Righteous, Judgmental, Intolerant, Fanatical, Homophobic, Republicans. Turns out, Jesus isn’t anything like that. So I needed to change first. I don’t want to judge you. I think the views on homosexuality, premarital sex, drinking and other hot button issues are something I can’t just give you an answer  and you’ll change you’re mind, we have been taught by society for our whole lives that some of these things were ok. As christians we know what God says but why would we expect someone who doesn’t know Him to believe Him when republican_jesus1His representatives often behave so badly. See the previous stereotypical list of christian behaviors. It stings. I thought to be a christian I had to think Bush was almost the messiah. I don’t have to be a Republican. I’m sure Jesus isn’t. I found that I looked down on people who drank and smoked. OK, so which is the sin, having a drink or looking down on someone who does? I think Jesus wants us to love people. He talked about it a whole bunch in the bible. He took the 10 Commandments and broke it down into 2. LOVE GOD and LOVE PEOPLE. The Jews took the 10 and made them into 613 Commandments. We want to do the same thing. I’m not saying that there isn’t sin but I’m saying you are you’re problem and everyone else is God’s. I’m also not saying that you should never try and help someone with a problem  but I am saying you better be doing it from a place of love.

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to be continued …

It has been way too long since I blogged. It has been so long that almost everything has changed. One of the only 27634change-postersconstants is God. I’ll start about in the middle, heck I don’t know if it’s the middle but I do know it isn’t the beginning and I’m even surer it isn’t the end.

In September we left the church that we believe God brought us to here in North Carolina. I had been on staff for about a year and a half so it wasn’t an easy decision and it certainly wasn’t made quickly. We believed as we do now that we were supposed to do something else. I learned so much at Calvary Chapel of the Triad. It’s the place I learned that I love Junior and Senior High students. I learned I had a heart for them and a gifting as well. I learned how to tell people tough stuff, even when it hurt. I learned to speak publicly. I became a Deacon and it was the first place someone said that I was going to be a Pastor. I met a lot of friends and some people that I thought of as family. It was tough on both Paige and I. We really weren’t sure what we were supposed to do. So we went to church somewhere else. We lost Meshach in this period.

to be continued in part 2 …