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unicorn I have always been a big movie guy, if you know me well you know this. Over the past few months I have started to hear things about having expectations versus the real outcome. We expect things to go a certain way and when they don’t … disappointment. Jesus’ followers expected He was going to overthrow the Romans and rule but He got executed and they were shocked. So they quit the ministry and went back to fishin’. It’s not what they expected.

What the heck does this have to do with movies, being ripped off or freakin’ unicorns? It does. As many of my mind changes involve the author Donald Miller (see previous posts if you don’t know what I’m talking about). We went and saw him last week and learned some stuff. Films are all about Story. You need to have a likable  or at least interesting character, you need to have conflict and then you need resolution. So the rip-off comes when we watch the film and Meg Ryan kisses Tom Hanks on the Empire State Building and they live happily ever after. Rocky Balboa calls out for Adrian, who runs down to the ring. As the ring announcer declares the fight for Apollo Creed by virtue of a split decision, Adrian and Rocky embrace while they profess their love to one another, not caring about the results of the fight and everyone lives happily ever after. The thing is nobody lives happily ever after. Don Miller said he thought that if he had a bestselling book and fat stacks of cash then he thought he wouldn’t have any problems and would even be able to talk to animals. Sounds silly but I bet you think there is something out there if you had it you would be happy. There isn’t and you won’t. Our story will resolve someday, and we’ll be dead when it happens.

I heard that we spend 67 billion dollars on foreign aid, helping people who don’t have enough food and water, get food and water. Sounds like a lot of money huh? Well somebody spends something like 280 billion on advertising. Trying to get you to think you need things you don’t. If you brush with this toothpaste people will like you, if you drink this beer you’ll get laid, if you don’t feed your baby this you are a bad parent. But if you do buy all of these thing you will live happily ever after and be able to talk to animals.

So what should we do? I’m going to still watch movies and TV but I’m going to try and not be looking for this fulfillment that I’m not going to find. If you want your life to be a great story that has a great resolution at your death then make a great story. You are really in control of your story. Love others, help people, serve , give, sacrifice, and be a blessing!

Live Loved! m

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Body of Christ : a mosaic of photos

This all took places over a series of months, I wish I had blogged / journaled it as it happened but I didn’t so I’m trying to remember it all as accurately as possible. So we were visiting other churches and began to really like the idea of the whole church, the big “C” Church, the Body of Christ. I’ve been part of churches in the past that were really internally focused. If you didn’t go go to that specific church it was unlikely that you were going to heaven. During this period I was reading a lot of books (Blue Like Jazz, Unchristian, etc.) and listening to sermons that were really driving the idea of one Church home. A friend and I began talking about doing our own Churchy-thing. We didn’t know what it would ultimately look like but we wanted to try something different. I was thinking about a para-church youth group thing and he was more interested in adults. He knew someone that he had met in California who was a Pastor in Charlotte that was interested in getting involved. Housing is fairly reasonable here in North Carolina and it had always been my idea to have church in a house. I was still thinking High Schoolers at this point. We got together with the Pastor from Charlotte and I kinda pitched the ideas that I had. He was leading his church’s College Age / Young Adult ministry and asked if we wanted to see their building. It was really cool because it was in a small house. It really was exactly what I was looking for. So then the vision, His vision, shifted. My friend could have church for adults and I could work with the Young Adults. I started looking for a house and we found the Old Rural Hall House, (click here for pics and info), We started praying because we don’t have what they wanted. (30K) Paige even called and asked if they would consider donating it. We were on our way to becoming a Non-profit organization so thought they may consider it. After a long time of waiting they finally said no. We were undeterred knowing that God is big and we really just want what He wants anyway. We drive by the Old Rural Hall place almost everytime we leave our house so we pray that God would work out the details on a place. Somewhere along the line my friend and I realized that our vision was too different and we decided that I would go on my own. BurnedByChurch.org was birthed during this period as we realized how much damage people who claimed to be christians do to people who aren’t christians or heck even to christians. I’ve done it myself. There are certain things that I believe you have to do / believe to be a christian, but this didn’t stop me from making another big list, just like the Pharisees back in Jesus’ time, that you had to do or not do to be a christian. If you’ve met christian you’ve probably met: Hypocritical, Holier-Than-Thou, Arrogant, Pushy, Closed-Minded, Self-Righteous, Judgmental, Intolerant, Fanatical, Homophobic, Republicans. Turns out, Jesus isn’t anything like that. So I needed to change first. I don’t want to judge you. I think the views on homosexuality, premarital sex, drinking and other hot button issues are something I can’t just give you an answer  and you’ll change you’re mind, we have been taught by society for our whole lives that some of these things were ok. As christians we know what God says but why would we expect someone who doesn’t know Him to believe Him when republican_jesus1His representatives often behave so badly. See the previous stereotypical list of christian behaviors. It stings. I thought to be a christian I had to think Bush was almost the messiah. I don’t have to be a Republican. I’m sure Jesus isn’t. I found that I looked down on people who drank and smoked. OK, so which is the sin, having a drink or looking down on someone who does? I think Jesus wants us to love people. He talked about it a whole bunch in the bible. He took the 10 Commandments and broke it down into 2. LOVE GOD and LOVE PEOPLE. The Jews took the 10 and made them into 613 Commandments. We want to do the same thing. I’m not saying that there isn’t sin but I’m saying you are you’re problem and everyone else is God’s. I’m also not saying that you should never try and help someone with a problem  but I am saying you better be doing it from a place of love.

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